Love is the universal emotion that binds us all. It is the reason why the world feels a better place. Celebrating the day of love is therefore special. With Valentine’s Day round the corner, everyone is looking forward to spending the day with their near and dear ones and that special someone. Actor Ambuj Dixit, known for his short film Antara and web show Damaged, shares his plans, the significance of the day and more in this interview.
“Valentine’s Day is now considered as an occasion to celebrate all beautiful human relationships. The festival has come to be known as the day to celebrate love in all forms. People make it a point to wish ‘Happy Valentine’s Day’ to their friends, parents, siblings, teachers or anyone they consider special. In many schools, get-togethers are organised by children to celebrate Valentine’s Day. The day is now considered as an occasion to discover the universal feeling and emotion which represent love. My plans are very much to contact my friends and family and celebrate the beautiful relationship we share and continue to do so by being there for them through thick and thin,” he says.
For Ambuj, love is the most secure feeling.
“Love is having a companion, best friend, lover, partner, sounding board, cheerleader, advisor, and cuddle buddy through every avenue in the journey of life. Everyone has a very different way of dealing with love and relationships. I’m more of a silent person to begin with. Once I start knowing the person well, and things start happening in sync with me I become more expressive,” he adds.
The need for love arises because it makes us feel secure and wanted by another individual, shares the actor.
“Parents fulfil their children’s need for affection by helping them grow into adults, offering them advice when they encounter crises, and providing a roof over their head. Your spouse fulfils a need for affection by showing you how much he or she needs you in their life. Love is the proverbial glue that holds our different relationships together,” he says.
In the entertainment industry, there’s much pressure, competition and one also faces unsolicited judgements. People don’t get an outlet for their emotions in spite of being in the business of emotions.
Reacting to it, Ambuj adds,
“Some people find it difficult to express or share their feelings and emotions with others because of a particular personality trait they may have or they are less expressive or extrovert often because of life experiences or a crisis they experienced in their childhood. Often those who don’t express their emotions the reason is that they were judged, criticised and condemned too many times, instead of receiving empathy, validation, understanding, compassion, encouragement and support. Those who are often hurt by people, have been hurt mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, will often find it more difficult to express their emotions and are more careful with whom they share their feelings.”
Fulfilling someone’s need for love can be as simple as giving someone a hug or holding hands in a crowded shopping center. Love can be shown verbally by telling someone how great they are doing or providing words of encouragement when they are stressed.
“Love is demonstrated in meaningful conversations on dates, or through flowers sent to your special someone at home or at work. One should fully understand the impact they are having on their lives by helping them feel needed and desired as an individual. Only then will you receive the benefits of giving someone a piece of who you are as a person. The moments in time where we experience a connection with someone, on any level and in any relationship, are priceless. It demonstrates our ability, as human beings, to nurture and protect one another, and it teaches us humility and devotion for years to come,” he says.
The meaning of love has changed over the years, feels the actor.
“In our culture, many of us idealise love. We see it as some lofty cure-all for all of life’s problems. Our movies, stories and history all celebrate it as life’s ultimate goal, the final solution for all of our pain and struggle. And, because we idealise love, we overestimate it. As a result, our relationships pay a price,” he adds.
Today’s youth’s attitude towards love and what it symbolizes is very different compared to previous generations.
“If we believe that “love is not enough,” then we understand that healthy relationships require more than pure emotion or lofty passions. We understand that there are things more important in our lives and our relationships than simply being in love. The success of our relationships hinges on these deeper and more important values,” he ends.