Posted on May 30, 2017 at 9:27 pm

Love

Single Moms and Dating: Guidelines for Men

Single mothers are different. On one hand they are very strong, as they are forced to do everything – from bringing up the child to housekeeping – completely on their own. Not all men are able to date a strong and independent women, as they feel they have nothing to offer her. On the other hand, single mothers are quite vulnerable when it comes to dating once again. Dealing with woman’s vulnerability often proves to be a painstaking work. And a single mother is a fusion of both. Thus dating a single mom requires certain knowledge. Let’s have a deeper look at how to deal with single moms.

How to Deal With Her Strength?

As mentioned above, single mom can often make a man feel like he has nothing to offer her. But the fact is that single mothers not always choose their lives to be this way. Most of them went through a painful divorce, propelled by the infidelity of their husbands. In such cases, women find it quite difficult to trust men again, instead they prefer to take care of everything on their own. But that doesn’t mean that you have nothing to offer them.

First of all, a single mother is seeking understanding and you can easily provide her with it. Although, it may seem that she is great in doing everything by herself, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t offer your help from time to time. Actually, there are a lot of things that you can help her with. You can repair something in her house or help her with her car. Can’t she do it on her own? Yes, she can. But if you will help or offer your help at least, she will appreciate it.

Moreover, her strength has certain pros. Being a single mom, she clearly understands that a lot of things in this life can be really time-consuming, so she won’t demand your attention or you hanging around 24/7. And you shall not demand her attention and her time too.

How to Deal With Her Vulnerability?

You must understand that it is hard for her to jump right up into the new relationship (especially if we talk about an asian woman dating). Most likely, she experienced betrayal, but even if the reason for the divorce was not a betrayal, she saw her relationship crumbling down. So don’t force her into relationship with you. You should stick around being a good and understanding friend. Avoid pushing on her and avoid demanding her attention or your relationship will end without having a proper start.

How to Deal With Her Kid?

When you are about to start dating with a single mother, you need to understand that it is highly unlikely that you’re going to get the lead role in her life. Her top priority is her child, so get ready to be part of the supporting cast.

There is always a risk that her kid won’t like you, but that doesn’t mean that you should try as hard as possible to make her kid like you. Let your relationship with her child develop naturally. He or she is not obliged to like you, as much as you are not obliged to like him or her. Still, there is no reason to turn your relationship into the living hell. And whatever you do, avoid forcing your single-mom-girlfriend into choosing between you, as, come hell or waters high, she will always choose the kid.