Valentine’s Day is coming up, and for many people, they’re going to celebrate it with the ones they love. Maybe get some dinner, or see a movie together. However, for many people, they’ll be alone this Valentine’s Day. Not having a partner on a day dedicated to love can hurt, especially if you’re newly single.
However, Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be a day to mope if you’re alone. You can improve your day in quite a few ways, including:
Instead of worrying about finding someone to love, why not learn to love yourself? Take yourself out to eat, or give yourself a makeover and look great. Some people will tell you that if you want to find love, you must first learn to love yourself, and this is true. Spend the day doing something you love and make it a celebration of you.
Get Out and Have a Good Time
With Valentine’s Day, you shouldn’t force yourself to find a lover. When you don’t try to force it, things usually fall into place on their own. Going out to a bar or club and seeking a man or woman is going to ruin the fun. Instead, go out without any intentions to find love. Have a few drinks with people or dance the night away. Don’t expect to find love, but instead hope to have a good time.
Plan a Day With Your Single Friends
Some people have a single day before, during, or after Valentine’s Day. This is known by many names. Some will refer to it as Single’s Awareness Day, or SAD. In India, some celebrate a National Single’s Day.
This is a good time to hang out with your single friends. Have a few drinks together and catch up. Just like the previous step, don’t try to make it a day to find love, but instead, have fun with good times and good people.
If you’re on a diet, why not make Valentine’s Day the day that you cheat a little bit? Have some chocolate or ice cream, and make it a day where you celebrate your love for chocolate? Obviously, you should eat sweet foods in moderation, so make sure it’s a cheat day.
Alternatively, you can wait a day after Valentine’s Day to do this. Many stores will sell Valentine’s goods for half off or even more. Even lovers agree that the day after is the true holiday.
Express Your Feelings
If you’re feeling sad or lonely on Valentine’s Day, sometimes, it’s worth it to express how you feel. Write it down on social media, or if you don’t want to burden people, write it down in a diary. Sometimes, getting your feelings out can feel better, and give you some insight as to how you can tackle those feelings.
Besides looking better for any potential love interests, working out can make you feel happier. Dedicate Valentine’s Day to running or pumping some weights. While your true love should love you for your character and not your appearance, pumping some iron can give you more confidence.
Remember, It’s Just a Holiday
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to mean anything to you. For some, it’s just another holiday designed sell chocolates and flowers. It doesn’t have to have a meaning, and its impact on you is only as much as you allow it to give you. It’s not like any other day, especially since you don’t get the day off work or school because of it.
If you’re still having feelings of loneliness or you don’t know how to talk to people, you may need help from a therapist or counselor. There is no shame in getting help to learn better social skills, or to learn how to improve your self-esteem. If you want to practice self-care this Valentine’s Day, one of the best ways to do so is to seek the help of a counselor or therapist.
Online therapy has made it a lot easier. Now, you don’t have to deal with the stress of going to a therapist’s office. You can talk to a therapist through your computer or another smart device. Click this link to get started: https://www.betterhelp.com/start/
Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health-related topics. Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health resource with BetterHelp.com. With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.